The Agenda

My partner and I have been interested in anal sex. We tried it once, but it was very painful. Any advice?
– Dirty Penny

Anal sex should not be painful, but if you go at it without taking the proper steps that’s often what happens. The anal area is loaded with thousands of pleasurable nerve endings, so it is definitely an area worth exploring. The first, most important part of exploring anal sex is a desire to do so. The second is lubrication. The third is more lubrication. Anal sex takes time, practice, and patience. There are some very good books available to help you along the way. One that I especially like is “The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women” by Tristan Taormino, who is considered the go-to girl on anal sex for women.

Why can’t I have an orgasm during sex? I’m beginning to think there might be something wrong with me, because I can only come from masturbating. Please help!
Trust Us: there’s nothing wrong with you. Believe it or not, your situation is very common. The vast majority (80%) of women do not climax from penetration itself, despite what you may have heard, read, or seen in the movies.